Online Dating – Potential Dangers and Disasters

You’ve just clicked the last box in the long list of procedures to join XYZ online dating service, confident that everything you put in your profile was exactly as you wanted. You double checked, didn’t you?

Oops, you accidentally left in some key information that will make you readily identifiable to all your friends, family and co-workers. Now everybody will know about your absolute sheer desperation to find a partner.

Or worse! You put on your profile a photograph of yourself, half-plastered with alcohol at the last Christmas party, lipstick smeared across your cheeks (I haven’t mentioned any gender here, so whatever pictures you have in your mind are entirely your input).

So, you see. This is a potential minefield…and we haven’t even been out on our first date yet, have we?

But don’t despair or feel that the cat is out of the bag. You can always go back to the profile and change the details/remove the photos/delete your entire account if you are scared enough.

But let’s be serious here for a moment. In the following paragraphs I’m going to go through the three most apparent “dangers” of Internet dating.

The Stalker

Yes, ladies and gentlemen. I will put this horrible creature at the top of the list. We have all heard the horrifying stories that have often ended in tragedy. Even murder. Quite often these terrible events have come after encounters on the more “adult-oriented” sites. Perhaps a threesome has become a deadly game filled with jealousy and hatred, after what seemed to be such a cool idea at the time.

Even on a more mundane level, there are nutters out there who have harassed poor women (and men) to the point of psychological breakdown. Yep, it happens.

But, there are ways to avoid this. These guidelines, by no means a definitive list, are especially relevant for women and may help you in a tricky situation.

  1. Never put direct contact details in a profile. Most dating sites will not allow this anyway, as long as their screening procedures are up to standard.
  2. Make sure your first meetings are in well-patronized areas, like a food-court in a shopping mall, or some other busy place. That way, if the man/woman turns out to be less than what you hoped for, you can blend into the crowd before slipping away.
  3. If you feel nervous, take along someone you know and trust well and have them observe you from a distance. You won’t believe how much more confident this makes some women feel.
  4. Don’t give your phone number to your new online friend until you feel it is safe to do so. When is this? Certainly not after date number one.
  5. This may sound drastic, but keep some form of protection (in addition to condoms!) in your handbag (mace, capsicum spray, a very loud alarm device) in case you find yourself alone and in an intimidating environment. In the same vein, go and get some self-defense lessons – it will keep you fit and desirable as well as give you valuable knowledge about groin attacks and the like!

The Don Juan Crook

These are men, nine times out of ten, and there are more and more stories of these guys emerging every day.

This is where a super-charmer convinces their new date/partner that they are world-famous, super successful and know all the celebrities. For some reason or other, all their funds are tied up in something, and they cannot get their hands on ready cash for day-to-day living, or for some other “sure-fire” investment.

Before you know it. Mr or Mrs Gullible Internet Dater have handed over their bank account details, credit cards, or even packed the rolls of cash into the suitcase before driving Don Juan to the airport and kissing him good-bye as he boards the plane for Rio!

How do you avoid these crooks? It can be difficult for lonely folks, especially widows and widowers (beware the female black spider!), so the best advice here is to enlist a friend or two to give you an absolutely candid appraisal of your new-found Prince/Princess Charming.

The Dishonest Dating Site with Fake Members

This problem had a bit of press in Australia recently. I won’t name the actual site, but the owners were punished by the courts and made to apologize to their members.

Sadly, it can be hard to spot the fake profiles, sometimes answering you via sophisticated software programs, or even by real people paid to pretend they are someone else (backpackers in Australia, for instance).

If you aren’t careful, these pseudo-daters can waste a lot of your valuable time and money.

The best way to avoid being scammed in this way is to ask specific questions that only a real person would know the answers to. For example, ask about current events in your local area. If they can’t or won’t answer, you might be dealing with a robot!

However, in my opinion, Internet dating is a great option in today’s fast-paced world. People are time poor, and lack the freedom to socialize they way it used to be in the “good old days’.

Online daters just need to be alert to the potential dangers, and take the appropriate steps to minimize the damage.

Happy dating!

Ten Tips: How to Launch an Online Dating Business and Website

According to, from data compiled from Reuters, Herald News, PC World and Washington Post, the online dating business generates over a billion dollars in revenue. There are approximately 54 million single Americans and over 40 million have tried online dating.

There is no denying that the dating industry is in a financial growth period. With the addition of mobile applications, streamline payments and a younger generation embracing the Internet, the dating industry is poised for continued growth for years to come.

Starting your own online dating business can be done in an affordable and scalable manner. You can start in one city and expand as you grow. You can widen the reach and focus on a specific region of states or you can go national and international.

Here are ten tips on how to start your own site:

1. Focus on a niche market. This can be a religious affiliation, gender, ethnicity, age or more obscure such as a food choice (ie: vegetarian) or hobby. By narrowing down the category for the dating pool, you can attract more users that fit the specific demographic.

2. Name your site. Once you have chosen your focus, name your site. Try to use words that would easily appear in an online search or include “dating” in the title.

3. Claim your site. Purchase the domain name through or another hosting site. For a professional appearance, sign up for the email package so users can contact you at your site address.

4. Build a website on your own or through a white label service. There are numerous platforms available that let you utilize their programs to build a site. Dating Factory is a free service that enables you to build a site semi-customized to your needs.

5. Establish a social networking presence. Your site is online so your visibility should be online, too. Start a Facebook page and group, create a Twitter account, start an Instagram page, sign on to Pinterest, and create a Google+ account. Be sure to use your brand name for all the accounts.

6. Build a blog. Content marketing is a key component to attracting users. If you are a writer, write 3-5 articles a week about relationships, dating and love on your blog. You can also enlist the help of guest bloggers or use backlinks to trackback to other dating articles. The more relevant content you provide to your users, the more traffic you can generate to your site.

7. Submit press releases. Submit press releases to your local papers and to the national wire. This is a good way to announce the site, its service mission and any unique qualities about the site.

8. Offer specials and discounts. Free trials, buy one month get one month free and complimentary searches are all good ways to build a database. If you are offering any promotions, make the announcement via a press release and on your social network channels.

9. Join dating groups and attend conferences. The dating industry is a wheel that doesn’t necessarily need to be reinvented. Learning from the industry giants can help you build your business and generate users. You can gain helpful sales tips, learn about affiliate marketing and learn about industry trends.

10. Network. Go to local singles events and mixers to meet other singles and market your site. The more locals you have in any one area helps to build your search database.

Christians Online Dating Guide

When utilizing any type of online dating website, Christians must have priorities with their first priority in being a Christian and your relationship with God. God will provide guidance in seeking the perfect Christian mate but one must find the perfect online dating website for this important venture.

God’s plan for all his children is to have someone special to share their life with. One wants to ensure that the online dating website they choose is specifically for single Christians. The world of the internet has numerous temptations for not only Christians but also non-believers and one who is dedicated to God must be able to triumph over these temptations. A true Christian’s duty is to associate themselves with a genuine Christian dating website.

Seek god’s advice before enlisting the dating services of an online dating website. One must have high standards in seeking a Christian mate. There are numerous factors to consider when embarking on this journey. Are you willing to meet someone who is considered a “baby Christian”? Are you willing to date people outside of your religious denomination? These are only a few of the questions one must ask themselves before embarking on the services of an online dating website.

It would be wise before meeting a Christian from the online website to find out their goals in dating and if they match ones personal goals they have set for themselves. The ultimate goal of Christian dating is to find a spouse while maintaining the foundation of God within the relationship and ultimately marriage.

Unbelievably, dating people from an online dating website is not much different in comparison to meeting other Christian’s offline. The same specifics are present and just as important when on the dating scene.